When faced with infidelity in a relationship, the first reaction is to believe that you should leave. But is this the right thing to do? The answer depends on many factors. Is this the first time your partner has cheated? Is it a one-night stand or a full-on job? How long have you been together? Are you a child?
Let's look at these things one by one:
Is this the first time? If this is the first time your partner has cheated, it doesn't mean they will do it again or the relationship is over. Do you need to find out why they cheated? Did the opportunity (no pun intended!) come from too many drinks? Or was it arranged, that is, did your friend agree to meet someone else to sleep at the hotel?
Depending on the circumstances, you may feel that crying is about helping your relationship. Maybe you forgot about your friend. It may not be intentional, but sometimes we forget that the people around us have feelings too, and it can hurt if we don't spend time with them. So, before you make any crazy decisions, why not sit down and discuss the future you both want. If you need help managing your emotions during this difficult time, I recommend reading The Light of Beauty. Many couples have helped to solve such problems, and who knows what benefits you will get from reading.
Is it a one-night stand or a full-on job? People often don't understand the emotional impact of cheating on a non-cheating partner. Sleeping with a stranger is one thing, but if you cheat, the explanation is that you're not just sharing it with someone else, you're also sharing your life with someone else. Often times you will hear friends who say they love sex, but they can't handle the lies and betrayal that comes from infidelity.
If your partner is a liar, it means that this is not the first time but another notch in bed, it's time to stop. Only you can decide what you're willing to accept, but serial cheaters won't change, no matter how much they protest.
If you have just met and your partner is already cheating on you, this is not a good sign for your future. But if you've been together for years and this is the first time you've cheated, it could be a sign that your relationship is strained and in need of repair. If you have children together, you should think carefully about ending your relationship. Children can survive in a single-parent family, but they will thrive when there are two happy parents in a family. So, for them, see what you can do to resolve your differences, and hopefully this will be the last time you experience infidelity in a relationship.
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